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is this the truth

is this the truth {10}

dear reader you might remember the laser targeted speech by zach wahls previously posted here at tbaoo concerning his same sex parents. well this intelligent young man has a peer in sensible thinking, who is even dragging some superstitious self righteous politicians into thinking that their own prejudice could be flawed. he might even have them score an own goal, if you get my drift.

the irony hasn’t escaped me, if i think that being gay is not created by god ( nothing is ), can i still admire his line of thinking .. you bet, it’s an answer to those who feel that their religious beliefs should dictate public policy. policy for all the public, not just those that share the belief.

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what do i like

what do i like {15}

someone asked me today what do i like ? or what makes me happy .. well ain’t that a question. i gave it a nano second to think up a reply. so here goes, it’s a bit like my manifest or my rant list, but hey a post is overdue and i now have electricity.

we had a mother truck’n storm this afternoon and my bride was extremely frightened, even more than the dogs. shit scared i’d think, the thunderstorms we get aren’t as bad as the tornadoes in the us, but they really bang on big time and light up the sky. my lovely dinner was already for heat and then of course the power went out, so i arrived home to a candle light interlude, but the power returned, so we are all fine now. the interlude will have to wait.

so any-how what makes me happy:

good live music, if it has to be recorded then ok i’ll put up with that

good live theatre

good films

good quality television

great clothes, as determined by me, not the idiots that mumble about with enough cliches to kill

great cars

great motorcycles

great scenery, but not too long spent looking at it, i.e 5 days looking at the expanse and sitting in a chair – too much

great food, although my secret job has ruined my love of eating out

travel

5 star

good open, honest, worldly, accepting, free thinking people

candles light interludes

oh and of course, that rotten mongrel having been shot dead, apparently while hiding behind a woman. he had hatred for all the items above, ran his life and ruined others, based on a fairy tale. muslim, christian, jewish etc .. all the same bloody fairy tale and he used this twisted belief structure to justify killing so many people, people who may have been reading a different version of the fairy tale and even those that like me don’t read such fantasy.

if you have a like, why not leave it below in the comments .. good night, where are the matches.

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is tbaoo a narcissist

is tbaoo a narcissist {16}

you might tell that i’m bored, several signs: looking out the window all the time, cutting my hair, spending 3 hours trimming my sideburns and nasal hair while watching the same movies and tv shows over and over again. the day doesn’t get any better when i read of a trend or indeed an increase of narcissism amongst the general population. so with this in mind and as i’ve completed my grooming duties, i present a well known test to see if you dear reader could be described as a narcissist. give it a try and if you “dare” post your score in the comments section. the test has been copied from usa today, accessed here .. http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2009-03-16-pinsky-quiz_N.htm

Authors Drew Pinsky and S. Mark Young, a professor of entertainment business at the University of Southern California have studied celebrities and the general population by administering a widely used screening tool called the Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI)

a dictionary defines a narcissist as - excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance. Psychology extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type.

1.

A. I have a natural talent for influencing people.
B. I am not good at influencing people.

2.

A. Modesty doesn’t become me.
B. I am essentially a modest person.

3.

A. I would do almost anything on a dare.
B. I tend to be a fairly cautious person.

4.

A. When people compliment me I sometimes get embarrassed.
B. I know that I am good because everybody keeps telling me so.

5.

A. The thought of ruling the world frightens the hell out of me.
B. If I ruled the world it would be a better place.

6.

A. I can usually talk my way out of anything.
B. I try to accept the consequences of my behavior.

7.

A. I prefer to blend in with the crowd.
B. I like to be the center of attention.

8.

A. I will be a success.
B. I am not too concerned about success.

9.

A. I am no better or worse than most people.
B. I think I am a special person.

10.

A. I am not sure if I would make a good leader.
B. I see myself as a good leader.

11.

A. I am assertive.
B. I wish I were more assertive.

12.

A. I like to have authority over other people.
B. I don’t mind following orders.

13.

A. I find it easy to manipulate people.
B. I don’t like it when I find myself manipulating people.

14.

A. I insist upon getting the respect that is due me.
B. I usually get the respect that I deserve.

15.

A. I don’t particularly like to show off my body.
B. I like to show off my body.

16.

A. I can read people like a book.
B. People are sometimes hard to understand.

17.

A. If I feel competent I am willing to take responsibility for making decisions.
B. I like to take responsibility for making decisions.

18.

A. I just want to be reasonably happy.
B. I want to amount to something in the eyes of the world.

19.

A. My body is nothing special.
B. I like to look at my body.

20.

A. I try not to be a show off.
B. I will usually show off if I get the chance.

21.

A. I always know what I am doing.
B. Sometimes I am not sure of what I am doing.

22.

A. I sometimes depend on people to get things done.
B. I rarely depend on anyone else to get things done.

23.

A. Sometimes I tell good stories.
B. Everybody likes to hear my stories.

24.

A. I expect a great deal from other people.
B. I like to do things for other people.

25.

A. I will never be satisfied until I get all that I deserve.
B. I take my satisfactions as they come.

26.

A. Compliments embarrass me.
B. I like to be complimented.

27.

A. I have a strong will to power.
B. Power for its own sake doesn’t interest me.

28.

A. I don’t care about new fads and fashions.
B. I like to start new fads and fashions.

29.

A. I like to look at myself in the mirror.
B. I am not particularly interested in looking at myself in the mirror.

30.

A. I really like to be the center of attention.
B. It makes me uncomfortable to be the center of attention.

31.

A. I can live my life in any way I want to.
B. People can’t always live their lives in terms of what they want.

32.

A. Being an authority doesn’t mean that much to me.
B. People always seem to recognize my authority.

33.

A. I would prefer to be a leader.
B. It makes little difference to me whether I am a leader or not.

34.

A. I am going to be a great person.
B. I hope I am going to be successful.

35.

A. People sometimes believe what I tell them.
B. I can make anybody believe anything I want them to.

36.

A. I am a born leader.
B. Leadership is a quality that takes a long time to develop.

37.

A. I wish somebody would someday write my biography.
B. I don’t like people to pry into my life for any reason.

38.

A. I get upset when people don’t notice how I look when I go out in public.
B. I don’t mind blending into the crowd when I go out in public.

39.

A. I am more capable than other people.
B. There is a lot that I can learn from other people.

40.

A. I am much like everybody else.
B. I am an extraordinary person.

SCORING KEY:

Assign one point for each response that matches the key.

1, 2 and 3: A
4, 5: B
6: A
7: B
8: A
9, 10: B
11, 12, 13, 14: A
15: B
16: A
17, 18, 19, 20: B
21: A
22, 23: B
24, 25: A
26: B
27: A
28: B
29, 30, 31: A
32: B
33, 34: A
35. B
36, 37, 38, 39: A
40: B

The average score for the general population is 15.3

The average score for celebrities is 17.8

Young says it is important to consider which traits are dominant. For example, an overall score that reflects more points on vanity, entitlement, exhibitionism and exploitiveness is more cause for concern than someone who scores high on authority, self-sufficiency and superiority, he says.

The seven component traits by question:

• Authority: 1, 8, 10, 11, 12, 32, 33, 36

• Self-sufficiency: 17, 21, 22, 31, 34, 39

• Superiority: 4, 9, 26, 37, 40

• Exhibitionism: 2, 3, 7, 20, 28, 30, 38

• Exploitativeness: 6, 13, 16, 23, 35

• Vanity: 15, 19, 29

• Entitlement: 5, 14, 18, 24, 25, 27

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smile for the camera

smile for the camera {10}

i’m going to get all academic on your ass !! – no not really, but in thinking about things today i was reminded, yes here i go again .. of my view on the view of cctv cameras. closed circuit television cameras. we in today’s society are becoming used to the fact that they’re around and some may even think, feeling safer, about them watching our every move, well not every one but just the important ones.

the bad guys and girls that break the law should have a lot to fear, well that’s if they fear getting caught, while those who work in so called high or even low risk workplaces should feel safer. idiots come in to rob the place and all the ridiculously placed cameras record is an incredibly blurred shot of the head of “some goombert” from some ninety eight metres away. why the “mother truckin hell” are they they like that ? who decided that we wouldn’t know they’re there, or even that the somewhat disguised fools wouldn’t know.

the sheer sillines of their placement in these high or low risk workspaces where innocent workers get robbed, bashed and worse by loonies looking for a quick buck, is up for some serious rethinking me thinks…

so the topic for today dear reader, is posed in question form:

  1. would you agree to be recorded, as in a clear face height, full face, front on digital video of your good self, as you walked in to the business.
  2. would you agree to have a video, same details as in face height, full face of your good self as you make your purchase, ( those sly adulteress contraceptive purchases may have to be a bit more discrete )
  3. would you then as a condition of entry, by reading the unmistakably obvious signage as you entered, agree to this process.
  4. knowing that the right of access to these recording is only permitted via a court warrant and only pertinent to an actual crime.

the camera lens would be ( and should be ) fairly and squarely pointed at the faces of those entering, those making a purchase and those dropkicks that decide to rob with or without violence. this activity will be captured by a bomb proof, paint proof, damage of any kind proof camera housing built into the shop fitting stuff. no need to think that no-one knows the cameras are there. highlight the shit out of them and make sure everybody knows that it’s happening .. hence point 3.

here’s a personal view on cctv camera locations … thank you – you tube

alternatively here’s some serious discussion on street based cameras, which can be accessed via this excellent paper …

Paul Wilson and Helene Wells. (2007) “What do the watchers watch? an Australian case study of CCTV monitoring” http://epublications.bond.edu.au/hss_pubs/251

so when you go to the store, service station, video store or local dodgy hot dog stand – be prepared to be captured on video and be pleased about it, please !!

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